Meet Matt

I’m about helping us to learn to love and be loved as our core selves. We are becoming a deeply connected people, attuned to each other’s needs and boundaries and resonating with each other’s feelings. I help us to see that we yearn to participate selflessly in life by helping each other awaken to the reality that we are one with each other and all of life, and the joy of losing ourselves in that reality.

I experienced acute emotional pain for the first 40 years of my life, and I suffer a lot less today.

During that time I constantly worked on one project; figuring out what was wrong with me and why I couldn’t maintain relationships or feel OK with myself.

For about two decades I was a relentless seeker, exploring countless self-help techniques, spiritual paths and I always had some guru or teacher in my earbuds.

Today I know that there was never anything wrong with me, that I was merely trapped in my own unprocessed grief and limiting beliefs. In fact there’s nothing wrong with any of us.

I’ve explored many tools and three have stuck with me:

  • IFS Parts Work (with integrated somatics, attachment theory and neurophysiology)

  • Plant Medicines and the integrated psychedelic experience

  • Gene Keys - a lightweight nondogmatic highly potent spiritual path

These are the methods I use today for my own development and to contribute to the development of others.

I’m 44 years old, have 3 adult kids and I’m married for the second time, this time happily. I’ve been a small business owner most of my life in the software space. When I’m not improving my mental health coaching skills I like to camp, work in my wood shop or do construction projects on my Arizona property.

My life has been marked by:

  • Serial Relationship Failures

  • Addiction Struggles

  • Sexual Issues

  • Divorce & Family Blending Challenges

  • Inability to Connect with my Children

  • Inability to Focus & Career Problems

  • Bankruptcy, Foreclosure & Chronic Financial Challenges

  • Intense Shame & Inner Criticism

  • Isolation and Loneliness

  • Religious Trauma

  • Childhood Physical and Emotional Abuse